Verbally Nonverbal

       When it comes to gender and nonverbal communication there is a big difference in expectations for how women should look and how men should look. Society and the "rules" society puts upon gender and external appearance, which is mentioned in the article we read in class. This article gives an insight on this particular role from society as well as how transsexuals face the challenges to their recent opposing co-genders. The article stated, " it is often a requirement upon oppressed people that we smile and be cheerful." This article backs up the idea of those who are better off than us should be smiling and dancing in the streets with joy. I related this to the the relationship between transgenders and transsexuals. Transsexuals sometimes want to be transgendered again and transgendered might wish to be transsexuals. Both can feel the other should be happy and when they aren't they don't see the reasons or struggles to why. To relate this article to gender and my own personal experience comes from, "Anything but the sunniest counterfeit exposes us to being perceived as mean, bitter, angry, or dangerous." I have to say I have been victim to this. 
       All day long my mind is going which is probably why I am a psychology major. I'm also a senior in college who has way too much due or too much to study. I don't walk around smiling as I walk through the hallways, I walk around making to do lists of school life and personal life. If I am focused at work people always think I am mad because I'm not laughing or joking. If I am with a man and I'm not smiling or laughing at all his dumb jokes he wants to be funny but are not in any way then I am a bitch. I feel as a women we are to walk around smiling, laughing, gliding through life as I walk, and have a glisten in my eye at all times. 
        Two of these four are not possible to begin with! If I don't uphold my self to these standards of being a woman then "watch out" because the chances of me being bitter, mean, and bitchy are the only excuse. Is that fair? Because I don't fake a laugh to impress a man I'm a bitch? If I don't swoon over a pick line then I'm bitter because of my last relationship? I'd rather practice smiling with eyes like Tyra Banks teaches the models in training instead of showing off the teeth I'm insecure about so that in fact makes me angry? Just because I am a woman doesn't mean I like to follow womanly trends according to society but if following the ways of my heart makes me angry, bitter, and mean in the eyes of close minded traditionalists ill take it!